Sunday, February 12, 2023

Today's Worship Service - Sunday, February 12, 2023

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Worship Service for February 12, 2023

Prelude

Announcements:  

Call to Worship

L:      We are crucified with Christ.

P:      It is no longer we who live, but Christ who lives in us.

L:      For to live is Christ and to die gain.

P:      Come, Lord Jesus.  May Your loving Holy Spirit fill us in this time of worship.

Opening Hymn –  Near to the Heart of God            Hymn #527/617

Prayer of Confession

How often, merciful God, have we acted to please others rather than acting to please You!  How often have we thought first of ourselves and only then, if at all, of You!  We repent, for You alone must be the highest priority, the supreme goal of our lives.  We must live for You alone, all we say and do must be out of love for You.  Yet, Lord, You know how hard this ideal is for us to achieve.  We need Your help, Your grace, Your strength, and Your wisdom to sustain and guide us, or we will fail.  We turn to You to teach us to love You with all our hearts and minds and souls and strength.  Be with us always.  (Silent prayers are offered)  AMEN.

Assurance of Pardon

L:      Friends, hear the Good News!  We share the promise of God with His people through the sacrifice of Christ. 

P:      Though we are unworthy, we are granted God’s favor in Jesus Christ, and are baptized into the church of His beloved Son.

Gloria Patri

Affirmation of Faith/Apostles’ Creed

I believe in God the Father Almighty, Maker of heaven and earth; And in Jesus Christ His only Son our Lord; who was conceived by the Holy Ghost, born of the Virgin Mary, suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, dead, and buried; He descended into hell; the third day He rose again from the dead; He ascended into heaven, and sitteth on the right hand of God the Father Almighty; from thence He shall come to judge the quick and the dead.

I believe in the Holy Ghost, the holy catholic Church; the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins; the resurrection of the body; and the life everlasting.  AMEN

Pastoral Prayer and Lord’s Prayer

Holy God,

This day we are reminded of the suffering of those in our own community.  We pray for their health and safety.  We pray for their healing and finding solutions to their problems.  And as we expand our view to those outside of our community, we pray especially today for those who have suffered greatly in Syria and Turkey.  We pray what the Psalmist wrote in Psalm 10:

Lord, you know the hopes of the helpless.  Surely, you will hear their cries and comfort them.  You will bring justice to the orphans and the oppressed.

Comfort the people whose family members and friends have died as a result of these earthquakes.  Draw close to them.  Equip believers in Syria and Turkey to show the love of Christ to their neighbors by helping in tangible ways.  Inspire generosity in the hearts of people across the world.  In the face of such destruction and loss, empower us to show radical love to our own neighbors who might be experiencing grief of the loss of life, beauty, and peace.  Let us not turn away, but help those in need those who are suffering and bear witness to Your presence with them. 

Today, we also pray for our own loved ones…

And now listen to the voice of our hearts as we pray in silence.

Aloud, we pray together saying…

Our Father who art in heaven, Hallowed be Thy name.  Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.  Give us this day our daily bread.  Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors.  And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.  For Thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, forever.  AMEN.

 

Hymn –  A Mighty Fortress Is Our God                   Hymn #260/151

Scripture Reading(s): 

First Scripture Reading – Psalm 119:1-8

Second Scripture Reading – Matthew 5:21-26

Sermon –  Forgiveness and Redemption

(based on Matthew 5:21-26 and the story from Genesis 27-33 regarding brothers Jacob and Esau)


Have you ever been hurt by someone else, and wanted to hurt them back?  Or get even with them?  Or seek some kind of revenge?  Or retaliate against them for what they did to you?  Or maybe, worse, it kept eating you up inside in silence so that you couldn’t eat or sleep?

Our New Testament Scripture reading this morning from Matthew says "So, if you are offering your gift on the altar, and there you remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar.  First go and be reconciled with your brother or sister…then come and offer your gift".  Asking for forgiveness and admitting that you’ve done something terribly wrong to another person or being willing to forgive the person that has offended you are never easy tasks.  But what’s even harder is being reconciled to that person – being in a restored relationship with them.  And yet, this is the most important part of forgiveness.

The Old Testament actually gives us a wonderful example of this in Jacob and Esau.  It covers about 5 chapters in Genesis from chapters 27-33.  The story of Esau and Jacob reads like a juicy novel. The brothers were born to Isaac, the son of Abraham.  When Isaac was near death, he desired to give to Esau, the older of the two brothers, his blessing. In biblical times, a blessing was to grant another a place of honor and status, to publicly declare that this person being blessed was, in essence, to replace you.  And, usually, the blessing is given to the firstborn son. In this case, that would have been Esau.  Yet, as the story unfolds, Jacob, the younger son, tricks and deceives his father, Isaac, so that the blessing is given to Jacob, instead.  Imagine the shock and horror that Esau feels when he learns of the deception.

Unfortunately, because of Esau’s anger towards his brother, Jacob has to leave town.  At some point in Jacob’s travels he lays down to sleep and is met by visiting angels in his dreams.  I think those angels showed up for a reason.  I think it was to convict Jacob that before things can be right with God they have to be right with his brother.

Jesus said that very thing in our lesson this morning from Matthew.  If you are offering a gift at worship - of money, of praise - and you remember somebody has ill will or hard feelings against you, go to that person and make it right, make amends, seek reconciliation.

I wonder if sometimes our worship is meaningless, our work is ineffective, our prayers are unanswered is because we have not reconciled with our brothers or your sisters?  And the phrase brother or sister in scripture is simply shorthand for any other person.  It could be a child or a parent, it could be a cousin or an aunt or uncle.  It could be the neighbor down the street or an old best friend.  It doesn’t matter who the person is.

Jacob knew that he had done wrong. Now he knew he had to make it right. He had to take the first step.  Restoring a cracked relationship is like mending a broken arm. If your arm is broken you take initiative to get to a doctor so he can set it, put a cast on it, so healing can take place. Broken relationships, like broken arms, are never mended accidentally. They require purposeful and intentional action.  We may try to deny the pain or ignore the split.  We may think that time heals all wounds, but it only moves the pain below the surface, where it will always affect future relationships.

Now, of course, the relationship is easier to mend when the offender apologizes to the offended. But, what if the offender does not admit their wrong? What then? Too often, many of us resort to our Junior High days when someone has hurt us or offended us. We go to everyone else to plead our side of the story, to validate our feelings, to justify our anger, and we don't go to the person who has offended us. But the Bible tells us to go directly to that person and talk to them in private.  That’s easier said than done, but it’s necessary if you want to restore the relationship, because even the offended has a role to play.

So when we go to that person, what do we say?  Well, mathematics teaches us that "the shortest distance between two points is a straight line." The same principle is true in reconciling relationships. The shortest distance between two people is a straight line. A straight line like: "I was wrong," or "I haven't been honest with you" or "Your actions hurt me," or "I love you too much to allow our relationship to crumble."  Get right to it.

The most important part at this stage however, is to clarify not confront.  Often when we’ve gotten up enough strength to come to the other person, it is in an attitude of confrontation, in an accusatory or revenge seeking mode.  I would suggest that, instead, you seek to clarify first.  Not always, but often, the issue at hand is a misunderstanding. Someone said something that was taken out of context or stated incorrectly.  So seek first to understand, to clarify.

In our story with Jacob and Esau, you’ll find that after being convicted of his own behavior Jacob prayed, now granted, he prayed for the wrong reasons, but, he, nevertheless, prayed.  He prayed that Esau would spare his life.  Prayer is always the best place to start, it can be the salve for wounded parties and the lubricant for friction in relationships.

This process of reconciliation is not a cake walk. It will often be messy.  Hearts have been hardened.  Feelings have been hurt.  Emotions are on edge.  Wounds are gaping.  The offended when approached by the offender may look for an ulterior motive and may feel that the offender is disingenuous.  The offended may be thinking, "Why after all these years do you want to get together now?  Why do you want to make things right now?"

God needs time to soften hearts, to ease emotions, to heal wounds, to bring understanding to the reconciling parties.  And there is no greater power available to us for that to happen than prayer.  Because prayer changes us.

On that morning after all those years had gone by, Esau and Jacob met.  Jacob humbled himself before his brother by ". . . bowing to the ground seven times until he approached his brother" (Genesis 33:3).  He came with the right spirit and the right attitude.  He acknowledged that he had done the wrong.  He was the deceiver.  He tricked his brother out of his blessing.  He was at fault.

Every action of reconciliation requires that someone in the hurting relationship, preferably both parties, admit their fault and their desire to repair the damage.

At the face to face meeting Genesis tells us that "…Esau ran to meet him, hugged him, threw his arms around him, and kissed him.  Then they wept" (Genesis 33:4).  The two brothers embraced, throwing their arms around each other.  The action of both Jacob and Esau is a picture of vulnerability.  To embrace someone else is always to expose your heart, especially in a broken relationship.  And to expose your heart is to reveal your part in the damaged relationship.  Here, you reveal the hurt and the pain you caused.  You admit that you were wrong.

Now, here is the rub.  Whenever you expose your heart you stand the chance of having your heart broken, again.  People will let you down, disappoint you, and trample your emotions.  Crawling into a shell, living in isolation would be easier.  There, safe from the pain and hurt of relationships, you could shut out all of humanity.

Could it be that you have been hurt so deeply that you don't want to expose your heart again?  But do you really want to live that way?  Do you want to go through life living in a cocoon, safe from the hurtful arrows of others, but cut off from the relationships that give you love and life and joy?

Jacob wanted to find favor in the eyes of Esau.  He sought peace.  He desired to put the past behind him.  He humbled himself before Esau. He opened up his heart.  He wanted most of all forgiveness.  And Esau embraced Jacob.  As they held each other, I'm sure that Jacob said, "Please forgive me, brother." Then, Esau spoke those life-changing words, "Brother, I forgive you."  Forgiveness is not optional in reconciling a broken relationship.  Forgiveness involves letting go so you can get on with the rest of your life.  Forgiveness means that there will be no continuing resentment or bitterness.  We hope for the best for the other.  Forgiveness is a long healing, not a momentary one.

Jacob wanted to make things right.  He had harmed and wronged his brother.  He had stolen his birthright and all the inheritance that goes with it.  So, he brought with him droves of herds and flocks to make restitution for the wrong Esau had suffered.  Restitution is attempting to restore that which has been damaged or destroyed and seeking justice whenever we have the power to act or to influence those in authority to act.

Restitution is much easier when it comes to physical property.  If you have taken physical property, you give it back or you pay for it.  However, restitution is much more difficult when you have said words that have damaged a person's name and character.

Here's the question: In what ways do you need to restore that which you have damaged in the broken relationship?

Jacob acknowledges his wrong; he reconciles.  Esau forgives.  The once broken relationship is mended.  Wouldn't it be nice if all broken relationship ended that way?  It can.

If you want to know what the face of God looks like, go to the brother or sister you have offended, ask for their forgiveness, then, hear them say, "You are forgiven."  When forgiveness is extended to the brother or sister who has wounded us, we are like God.  The absence of this process of reconciliation robs the church of the power of unity.  As God has forgiven you, you are to forgive those who have hurt you.  As God has reconciled with you, you are to reconcile with others.

May the kingdom of God begin with us and if any harbors resentment or harm, let us ask for forgiveness and be reconciled.  Thanks be to God.  AMEN.

Offertory –

Doxology –

Prayer of Dedication –

Gracious God, as we present these offerings, may we be reminded of the many blessings You have shared with us as individuals , and as a community of believers.  You have nurtured us with a love that knows no limits or boundaries.  May our sharing this day reveal our priorities and our promises, for we belong to You and offer You our gifts, that they may be used in mission and in ministry to bring glory to You.  Amen.

Closing Hymn – Precious Lord, Take My Hand             Hymn #404/684

Benediction

          As we journey out into the world, may each of us walk in the light of God’s ways, striving to be blameless and just.  Hold us fast to not be led astray, but may God’s unconditional love cover us when we do.  Go in peace!

Postlude

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